From the simplest form of raising our eyebrows to a familiar face or saying hello.
To the more formal emails and messages.
To our actions; smiling, waving, winking and nodding.
They all have the bull’s eye intention to communicate.
Not only passing the message but also validating the assurance that your recipient got the agenda.
Through communication we expect feedback and that is where you get to actually know if your communication was effective to your audience.
By the way someone acts you can tell if your communication is going through or simply bouncing back empty.
Sometimes our communication becomes a broken telephone. Communication becomes affected and we simply don’t communicate but are just talking to reply or get done over with telephone.
Needless to say, communication has some hurdles.
Here are some of the most common ones that hinder effective communication.
BLOCKED EARS AND MIND
Listen and understand. You have probably heard this point over and over again. It has become music to your ears.
How do you expect to communicate if you play blocked ears and a distracted mind?
We mostly take in words to reply and not to understand. It has become such a routine since we do it everyday.
- Take in the words and actions portrayed towards you in order to get back a clear feedback and make the communication even easier.
If something is not clear be confident to ask and seek clarification for any action that you seem to be in the dark about.
- Avoid jumping into conclusions and assumptions on messages received. Communication is typically affected by the receiver’s perception rather than the senders intended message.
Be even more keen to understand and listen to communicate better.
THE FUSE IS BLOWING UP
We all have had that point when we are emotionally charged up.
Don’t be alarmed, it just proves you are a normal functioning human being with emotions.
Such circumstances do need more care on communicating and its mostly recommended to be silent.
Your emotions blowing up don’t do a great job on communicating and leave an even messier situation.
At this point communication becomes competition where everyone wants feedback at the same time and passing messages at the same time without listening and giving time to each other.
Don’t blow up. Calm down get yourself together when your emotions are under more control then communicate.
Utilize your stress busters to cool off.
TYPES OF COMMUNICATORS
There are four types of communicators:
They want facts and data on explanation. They are rational and take time on communicating.
To them its more of the end than the route to the end. Intuitive communicators have the big picture in mind.
Unlike our intuitive communicators, functional communicators want the structure and the process.
They need to have an established purpose before initiating the conversation.
Opposite of the analytical communicators since there are mostly guided by emotions.
Personal communicators build relationship and take into consideration other people’s feelings.
Common situations are when we use different styles that are not compatible to our audience.
Eventually communication is blocked due to loss of interest or misunderstanding.
You need to understand your recipient on communication in order to use a communication style that is compatible to them. Tailor you message to fit your audience.
Read the mood on communicating.
Not every hour is happy hour.
Sometimes communication becomes a challenge at a specific time or environment. Play with your intonations and be considerate of the environment. If the communications do not make sense in a specific environment let it go.
Sometimes we may get uncomfortable due to various reasons.
That tie looks so neat but its too tight.
Probably you might be in a shoe situation when your feet start to hurt. You in class, and suddenly notice your pen decided to color your fave bag or outfit by blotting.
In such circumstances, you are focused on how uncomfy you are and don’t actually care about the communication at that point. Be comfortable to ensure an attentive and effective process of communication.
There definitely has been a point where consistent conversations just die. Communication is cut off and there is no hope of resurrection.
And now we are there not knowing how to resurrect and keep the fire burning.
Silence is golden but not in this situation. You need resurrection.
On your resurrection, if you wish to ignite the conversations and consistent communication, do acknowledge the long silence on the start of the communication.
Find out how they are actually doing. Sometimes silence could be a red flag that needs attention.
Relapse can happen and before you know it, we are back to square one.
You can keep the conversation going through:
- Change the topics more often. Sticking to a specific thing might be boring. Talk about a football match, a movie or book that sweeps you off your feet.
- Take advantage of a holiday or special occasion to wish them a good one.
- On social media, if on your daily feed you see them, tap a like or comment if you wish.
Such small steps make communication easier.
You at least remind someone of your presence in their life or environment.
Lastly, if a conversation is over, let it be over. Don’t force it since chances are you might not enjoy it or get an expected feedback.
Effective communications should be practiced at home and in your most basic and casual levels with friends and family.
If you are great at such levels then the school and work environment will be a piece of cake with a cherry on top.